Setting Healthy Boundaries
Setting boundaries can be tricky sometimes, especially if you aren’t used to what healthy boundaries look like. When we think of the word boundary, we may associate this with a fence or border used to separate two things from each other. That is exactly what boundaries are in relationships. A boundary is a limit or space between you and the other person. Boundaries are important in every relationship because they help you define what you are comfortable with and how you’ll like to be treated.
It is also important to learn and respect the boundaries of others. This helps to create healthy and long-lasting relationships. Healthy boundaries may look like staying true to your values and belief, putting yourself first, making time for self-care amidst a busy schedule, knowing when to say no, expressing your feelings without guilt, accepting help from people, standing up for yourself, asking for space, communicating physical and emotional needs and not tolerating any form of disrespect.
Steps in Creating Healthy Boundaries
Clearly define your boundaries: This is the first and most important step in setting boundaries. Knowing what boundaries are to you and what boundaries you want to be respected is crucial. Take some time to reflect on the relationships you have. What relationship causes you stress and drains your energy? Write out these boundaries to give more clarity.
Be straight forward and openly communicate your boundaries: Communicating your new boundaries can be scary especially after you’ve accepted that disrespect for some time. You don’t need to spare anyone’s feelings but be mindful of your tone and be calm.
Uphold these new boundaries: After setting boundaries in relationships, people may still choose to disrespect or ignore them. Be sure to stay true to these boundaries and continue reminding them of your boundaries if they choose to ignore them.
Seek professional support: Sometimes, we don’t succeed in setting boundaries and that’s okay. Don’t be afraid to seek professional support like therapy and counseling to help move past this barrier in life.
Setting boundaries does not always feel good but remember it is important in relationships. Boundaries can be set with family, friends, romantic partners, co workers and even complete strangers. Take charge of your life and do not let others take advantage of you.