When is the right time to begin couples therapy?

Many individuals and couples struggle with determining the best time to begin couples therapy. The straightforward answer is: as soon as possible.

The Gottman Institute, a prominent organization focused on relationship research and training, has studied when couples seek professional assistance. Their research uncovers a surprising trend: on average, couples wait six years after first facing relationship challenges before reaching out for help. During this time, considerable harm can happen.

For relationship therapists, when couples start therapy after enduring long-standing issues, recovery often becomes more complex. The journey may take longer and demand addressing a larger amount of emotional hurt.

Early intervention in couples therapy brings multiple benefits. It not only accelerates recovery but also fosters the development of a deeper connection with your partner. Furthermore, early therapy is linked to improved mental health for individuals and better relationships with other loved ones, including parents, siblings, friends, and children.

Recently, there has been a noticeable shift toward couples proactively seeking support sooner. Many are now engaging in therapy even when not in distress, aiming to strengthen their relationship from a position of stability. These so-called "enrichment-seeking couples" often experience significant benefits from early intervention.

Whether you aim to enhance your relationship or have been dealing with distress for a while, couples therapy offers a constructive and supportive space for growth. Although various factors may contribute to hesitance in seeking help, those who do often find it to be a valuable choice.

Our practice empathetic and tailored therapy for all couples eager to restore and nurture their relationship while addressing past challenges and disappointments. Our philosophy embraces an uplifting perspective on LGBTQ+ identities and relationships, emphasizing how individuals who identify as LGBTQ can nurture a sense of well-being and develop a personal identity that enables them to thrive in every aspect of life.

~ Monica Manuel, MS, LPC